Thursday, May 8, 2014

Family Invasion

It's that time of year again when our parent's fly into Las Vegas to visit.  I am so not looking forward to it.  We told both sets of parent's we didn't want visitors until Amelia was at least three months old.  Surprisingly, everyone listened to our request.  Shocker!  Heath's parent's booked a flight out here almost immediately after Amelia was born.  They chose the last week of June, which also covers Carleigh's 5th birthday.  Yes, they are coming out here for an entire week.  They never confirmed with us if that was a good time or if we even wanted to deal with them for a full week.  Honestly, I don't want them here that long.  Since it's the end of June, it's going to be hot.  Really freaking hot.  We won't be going anywhere.  Just hanging out at home and relaxing.  It's what we do all the time if we don't have any errands.

So now, I'm going to have the in-law's in my house for an entire week, driving me up the wall, and making me want to drink wine from the moment I wake up and until I go to bed.  I already told Heath I wanted visiting hours to be from 11am-7pm.  Eight hours is still too long to have people crowding up our house.  His dad even had the audacity to ask if he could fly Heath's brother out.  Yeah, not happening.  That dumbass called me a C-bomb many years ago when we wouldn't let him get HIS way for our wedding.  That's a whole other story.  I also don't want Heath's brother here because he has never acknowledged Carleigh, so why would I want him here ignoring Amelia too?  Forget about it.

I think Heath's dad wants his brother out here so he will have a drinking buddy at the casino.  Since Heath doesn't go out and get drunk all the time, Heath's dad probably feels he needs someone here to do that with.  His brother (in his mid-20s) still lives at home with mommy & daddy.  He would only want to come to Las Vegas on someone else's dime so he can get drunk on someone else's dime.  He would have ZERO interest in his nieces.  I just don't have the tolerance to deal with a moocher and his enabling parent's all at once.  Besides, anyone who has called me a C-bomb isn't welcomed in my house.

My parent's are coming out for four days the first week of June.  My mom insisted she come out and visit before Heath's mom because, her words, "I'm your mom!"  Okay... whatever that means.  It's not going to make any damn difference who meets Amelia first.  It's so childish.

I'm tired of having family out here for every birthday of Carleigh's.  I don't mind if people want to come out a week before or after her actual birthday.  I just want to be able to throw a party for Carleigh where her neighborhood and school friend's can be invited.  Sure, I could do that with family visiting, but it would be too stressful.  I don't think Carleigh would be able to truly have a good time with grandparent's chasing her around and wanting to hold her, hug her, kiss her, etc the entire time she's having her party.  I'm also putting my foot down for Amelia's birthday too.  Heath's parent's come out twice a year.  So I know they will start choosing both girls' birthday weekends to come out.  I just don't want to deal with it.  I don't care if it sounds petty, I just want to celebrate my daughters' birthday's without being stressed out because people invite themselves to our house for however long they want.

I already told Heath to tell his parent's from now on, the longest amount of time I want people visiting is four days max.  If anyone wants to fly out here for a week, that's fine.  Just find something else to do those remaining days.  My mom already knows these rules and she knows I'll enforce them.  The in-laws?  Who knows.  Boundary stomping is a hobby of theirs.

As you can see, I am totally NOT looking forward to family coming out to visit.

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